Updated: Mar 26
Somewhere deep inside you, you know that life is meant to be good. When you were a little child, you knew this intrinsically. You knew that life was meant to be a joyous exploration. You knew this until the world started telling you otherwise. You knew this to be true until your parents, your guardians, your teachers, society, slowly trained you to believe that feeling bad was just a part of life. But I’m here to tell you that feeling bad isn’t normal.
Although you may be trained into thinking that one must grow up and face “reality”, that you can’t spend your time with your head in the clouds, that you must, one day become a responsible adult, there is still the truth living inside you that life is meant to be good. And your heart knows this still.
In the world of Law of Attraction, there is a belief that your emotions are your own personal guidance system, your emotional GPS, if you will. They represent the relationship that you have with your higher self or inner being or God or Spirit or Source or whatever name you want to give it. Your higher self is the part of you in the non-physical realm, the soul essence of who you really are and it is here to guide you along your path to living the life you have set out to live.
Basically it comes down to this: you come from a Source of pure, positive energy and whenever you are in an emotional state of positive feelings such as love, joy, appreciation, fun, etc. you are in resonance with that Source. Whenever you experience negative emotions, you are pinching yourself off from your Source. Although you can never be disconnected from your Source, when you are in a particularly negative spot emotionally, it can sometimes feel like you are. Your emotions are your way of knowing whether or not you are on the path to creating the life you want. So if you strive to always feel good, to always feel better, then it is just a matter of time before you start to live the life you want to create.
You see, you are the creator of your reality. As Quantum Physics has proven, merely our observation of something changes it and it changes it specific to us as individuals. In other words, we get out of it what we put into it. Each person experiences reality in a way that is unique to their individual experience. This means that if we are conscious of our participation in the co-creation of our lives, we can begin to shape our own experience of reality to one of our choosing. This is also what Law of Attraction teaches.
Your emotions are indicators of your relationship to how your higher self views the exact same thing you are focusing on in that moment. So if you are looking at something that makes you feel good, your higher self is in agreement with you and you know this because you feel good. But if you are looking at something which makes you feel bad, your higher self is telling you through your negative emotions that it does not experience that particular thing the same way. It does not see it the same way because it is coming from a state of pure, positive energy and therefore it cannot resonate with anything negative. And you cannot create the life you want when you are feeling negative.
It sounds so simple, and it is, but it isn’t necessarily easy especially if you’ve spent a long time training yourself that feeling negative is normal. But when you realize that you can use your emotions as your guide to creating the life you want, the power is now in your hands. You can choose to view a situation differently, you can choose to feel better about something, you can choose to look on the bright side. And you can choose not to focus on the negative. It takes some time and it most likely will not happen overnight, but you can train yourself into looking at the positive more and more often.
In the Law of Attraction universe, there is something called emotional momentum. Abraham Hicks makes the analogy of a car sitting atop a steep hill in San Francisco (if you haven’t seen them before, it’s hard to believe that people can drive on such things!). Let’s say you park your car atop the hill and you set it in neutral and release the parking break. Just for fun, you decide to give the car a little nudge to see what will happen. If you’re paying attention, you will notice that the car is going to gain momentum and quickly roll down the hill, out of your control and eventually wind up in the ocean! So you quickly step out in front of it and stop the momentum before it can get going. But if you’re not paying attention, then the car will start to roll slowly at first and then as it goes down the hill, it will gain more and more momentum until the only thing you can do is let it ride its course because now you can’t stop it.
The same thing happens with your thoughts and emotions. If you begin to focus on something and it makes you feel negative emotion, that is your cue that the car has been nudged. If you are sensitive to that, you can stop the car before it gets too far. But if you are not sensitive to it, you will find yourself quickly gaining momentum into feeling worse and worse. And then you are creating a life that is not in line with your desires. So you need to learn to notice negativity in its early stages. If you don’t recognize it right away, that’s ok. Give yourself a break and try again. This doesn’t happen overnight.
You may need to take some time at first just to recognize what feeling negative feels like. For my husband, Brandon, it only took him a couple of weeks of analyzing his feelings and recognizing what negativity felt like to him. For me, it took a lot longer, several months in fact. I had dissociated myself so much from my feelings that it took me a while to reacquaint myself with my feelings and to understand what it was I was feeling, let alone how to process them. So don’t worry if you need to take some time before you can begin to notice when you are feeling negative. If you just keep focusing on wanting to feel better, you will get better at it and pretty soon it will be easier and easier to recognize when you are feeling negative and you can stop the car in the early stages.
When you empower yourself with this knowledge, your life begins to change to one that reflects your truest desires. This is what happened for me and my husband. When we made the conscious decision to make happiness our number one priority, our lives changed dramatically. We went from being in a terrible state of financial and emotional negativity to completely turning our lives around in all areas, we now have a successful business, have our finances in order and we are happier than we have ever been! We are now living the life we’ve been dreaming about for years. It took some time and it took patience, but we are now living proof that it is possible to turn your life around.
It starts with a desire to feel better. Then it’s a matter of learning what your emotions are telling you and following the better feeling thoughts. Everyone has this ability. It may seem to be very difficult at first, but don’t give up. As long as you have the desire to feel better, you can and you will.
Life is meant to be good. You know this in your heart. Be still and listen. It will tell you the truth.